Sunday, January 14, 2007
Update
Next Monday, January 22nd will be our last official day of bonding. That is also the day we will have what is called "Guardianship Counsel." This is when it is formally stated that we want to adopt Caleb. This will also be when the court date is set. While we still hope and pray that the court date will be within a couple of days, according to everyone here, that isn't much of a possibility. Everyone says that it will probably be three weeks later. So, we are tentatively planning to both come home for that time, as hard as it will probably be to leave the baby. Then we will return for court, the 15 day waiting period, and spend a few days in Almaty waiting for Caleb's official papers before returning home. We have carefully thought about our options and feel this is the best. First of all, Brad will have about six weeks worth of work to fit into that 2 1/2 - 3 weeks. Also, we need to finish, okay well do the baby room. I want to find a pediatrician during that time as well. Also, quite frankly, we don't think Caleb will miss us all that much. That's not to say that he won't miss us at all, of course, but we will have only spent 2 hours a day for 12 days with him (a total of 24 hours!) Right now, he thinks of us as those two people who come to play with him, rather than his caregivers. Even when we get back, we'll only be allowed to spend those same 2 hours a day with him. We feel that until we all get home, he won't begin to really see us as his parents. I have spoken to other parents who have been through this very same thing, and they have said that yes, it will be hard to leave, but in the long-run well worth it. They said that you will need rest and recuperation before round number two. Many of them have even left again after the court date and returned to pick up their baby after the 15 day waiting period. So, that's the decision we made in case the court date is set for three weeks or later. It was a tough decision where we hope we're doing what is best for our family, not unlike the many others we will be making throughout our lives as parents.
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BOY THEY DON'T MAKE IT EASY DO THEY. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE MAKING THE RIGHT DECISION. I DIDN'T REALIZE THAT FIRST YOU ONLY SPENT 2 HOURS A DAY WITH HIM I THOUGHT IT WAS FOUR AND THAT THERE WILL BE A 15 DAY WAITING PERIOD AFTER THE COURT DATE. BUT YOU HAVE WAITED A LONG TIME FOR THIS, A COUPLE OF MORE WEEKS IS NOTHING AT THIS POINT. YES IT IS ICY TONIGHT IN SA BUT IT IS SUPPOSED TO BE ICE AND SNOW TOMORROW. GARY HAD SURGERY SCHEDULED FOR TOMORROW, CATARACT ON HIS EYE, THEY JUST CALLED AND SAID IT WAS CANCELLED. DUH! SINCE ALL OF THE SCHOOLS ARE CLOSED AND THE WINTER STORM WARNING WAS JUST EXTENDED TO WEDNESDAY. SHOULD BE AN INTERESTING WEEK ONLY TO WARM UP TO 50 ON THE WEEKEND. TAKE CARE AND WE LOVE ALL THREE OF YOU GINNY AND GARY
So frustrating to hear your agenda and schedule yet, you pretty much expected this. I'm glad you've reached a decision/plan between the two of you and you are the two who know what is best "all around" decision....and yes, this parenting business is just one good guess after another, many times! The best decision maker has your interest at heart and I will, of course, continue to pray for Him to give you direction and discernment.
We are indeed enjoying another day off from school (well we'll have to make it up)! Our youngest daughter and family live in the hill country between Fredricks-Kerrville and just called to say it is snwoing billy-blue-blazes up there and is reporting they could see 7-9 inches by tomorrow!!! Yikes!!!! It just looks like a COLD, balmy, winter day here in S.A.
I'm busy and loving being at home....sewing, scrapbooking and oh yes, doing the laundry on the side! hee hee!
Blessings to the 3 of you!
Brenda H.
Hi! Well after trying & trying, we hope this works. We are still enjoying seeing you and hearing from you everyday. The blog is wonderful. You both look great and so happy with Caleb. He is such a cutie. Well it's really cold here. Ice and sleet. Brenda & Karen both went to work. Brenda is now back at your home. Brent is home with Ashley. Ashley is looking at your picture everyday and usually chews on the book. Anyway, we love, miss you and are still praying God will let the court date be sooner then expected.
Give Caleb a hug & kiss from us. Love Dad & Mom A.
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